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My name is Neil and today I am about to change your life forever. And it won’t cost you a single penny.

It is no secret that negative thought patterns will cause all sorts of problems in your life. From depression to anxiety and much more in between. If you think the wrong way your life experiences will be negative also.

That’s why I want to give you a 100% free video today. This video will change your life forever by revealing a little known image concept that will allow you to develop a habit of eliminating negative thoughts as soon as they enter your head. Automatically!

Now I do realise you’ve probably heard that kind of thing before. However I can guarantee you have NOT seen this auto-negation system for destroying negative thinking. It is a revolutionary new concept by a guy called Jay Chase who is helping people across the world overcome the worry of what others think of you.

This video has been put together by Jay to help boost your confidence, overcome anxiety, destroy negative thinking, eliminate stress and much more.

In the video you will learn:

- Why negative thinking has to be stopped
- How someone actually thought themselves to death!
- The power of the sub conscious mind
- Why most people fail to stop negative thought patterns
- The simple image system for overcoming self doubt and negative
programming
- And much, much more!

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To the new you!

Neil

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The world we live in will always have a major impact in how confident we feel. The pace of life in today’s world means that there are numerous factors that affect our confidence levels. The truth is that according to what’s happening in the world around us impacts greatly upon our personalities and changes our confidence levels on a regular basis. We need to understand the secrets of confidence.

The word confidence surrounds us these days and our success is said to be born from it. There are very few situations where a lack of confidence is an advantage. Having confidence allows us to be assertive and to make our way in the world. In fact it is such a crucial part of everyone’s personality that it is amazing that there has been very little research into it. If we could understand what things make us unique we could better understand the elements that affect our confidence.

If we think about things that happen to us in life, we can begin to understand how our confidence is derived. Take your first job, or even you first day at school, you will have been apprehensive, hesitant and unsure. You would seek approval from others that you were conducting yourself correctly or that the actions you were taking were correct. Then after a short while your confidence will have grown, you will be familiar with your surroundings and the tasks expected of you and you are able to complete them without the apprehension and concerns that you had initially.

So we have to think about where confidence comes from. The make up of every individual is completely different. Have you noticed in a group of people there are some that just exude confidence and seem to have little concern about how they are perceived.  Much of it stems from our biological make up and our past experiences perhaps in childhood or adolescence. Some people are naturally shy whilst others are extrovert and outgoing. But what is it that makes us the way we are?

A major influence on the confidence that we have as adults is influenced by our parents. Some parents allow individuals to grow with freedom and develop their personalities naturally and with this confidence is instilled. Unfortunately many parents often focus on the negative aspects of a child and their only objective is to try and remove the child’s limitations or improve upon them. This can have very detrimental effects on a child’s development and restrict their confidence immensely.

Following childhood, being accepted by our peers has a major influence on our level of confidence; such is the desire to be liked and popular.

Then we have the big one. The media. The media plays such a big roll in our life these days that we are constantly being told how we should act and how we should look that we effectively allow ourselves to become programmed. This is exploited by the marketing people who want us to buy their goods and services. They tell us that if we make the right purchases, we will be better people, our lives will be enhanced and that we will fit into society just the way we should. This programmes us to think that we are more confident and that if we fit into each little box we will gain in confidence. Something which we should all remember next time we go shopping is that confidence can not be sold but the lack of it is exploited every day to make us buy.

Just a few of the secrets of confidence ideas if used to examine yourself can help you change the way you are. If you are not confident, then perhaps it is some of your past experiences that have formed you this way and addressing them will change how confident you feel very very quickly. Don’t just accept who you are, some very small changes can have massive effects on your self confidence.

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We have all heard of the phrase ‘to stand out from the crowd’ .  If you are looking to land that job you have been after or impress some one on a date then it is quite useful to be able to ‘stand out from the crowd’. If you have ever found yourself overlooked for opportunities when other less experienced or less qualified people manage to push in front of you then the chances are you were just not getting yourself noticed enough. Why? the chances are because you have been too timid or shy about it.

Some people say shyness is the natural enemy of confidence and with good reason.  Now don’t get me wrong a little shyness in the form of modesty is an attractive attribute to a lot people but we are not talking about that. What we are discussing here is the type of shyness that prevents you from speaking clearly to people. The sort of shyness that prohibits you from being outward to people you don’t know. In short the type of confidence that can prevent you from achieving your full potential.

There is a common perception amongst many shy people that they are ‘the way they are’ due to genetic or other biological reasons.  Now we are not here to have a biology lesson (lets’ leave that to the scientists) but let me assure you of this fact. There is not a single shy person who can’t get rid of  their inhibitions should they choose too no matter what their biological make up. This is because as human beings we have the ability to make ourselves be what ever we want. What is important is to have the will to change and, just as  importantly , the ability to stop labelling yourself as a naturally shy person.

Labelling is one of the main ways we affirm an identity to ourselves. This can be expressed outwardly , for instance  in the clothes we wear and the music we listen too; or inwardly in the way we affirm emotions and thoughts to our identity.  The more we affirm something the more we take it to be true and unshakeable. We fall in to the trap of acting in a certain way simply by falling into the trap of thinking we are that way inclined. The power of the mind can be a double edged sword.

So if we can affirm a shy identity to ourselves then it naturally follows that we can also attach a more outward extroverted persona as well. One of the best ways to do this is by wiping the mental slate clean to turn a phrase. Appreciate yourself as a fluid being not something set in stone. Avoid directly thinking about your shyness as an individual and instead begin thinking about the situations in life  you would like to find yourself being more confident in. This could be a dinner party or even a visit to the supermarket.  Basically begin imagining our you would like to be perceived by others and yourself.

One of the most common whys people attempt to overcome shyness is through alcohol. If you enjoy a drink you will know that one of the most enjoyable (and occasionally embarrassing) aspects of a drink is that you lose previously held inhibitions. You might find yourself saying or doing things that you would not consider doing in a million years. Many shy people turn to drink as away to conquer their inhibitions. The problem is that this can lead to a dependency on drink that becomes unsustainable in day to day living. You can’t rightly go for a job interview after a few whiskeys now can you!  This type of reliance can lead to people making excuses for their shyness – “ I can only talk to people I don’t know when I have had a drink’” is a commonly heard expression from people who label themselves as shy.

You transformation from shy introvert to outgoing extrovert needs to be as organic as possible.  One of the reasons that alcohol is used by so many shy people is because it makes strangers seem less frightening. Drink emboldens us within ourselves, and this is the key point here. To develop a knack of meeting new people you must start to look at other people differently.

One of the simplest ways to start doing this is through imagination.  In the same way we discussed using your mind to transform your own beliefs about your own identify. So to should you think about how other people deserve the same blank slate treatment. In other words – approach other people with an open mind. After all, what have you got to lose?  

Any life coach worth their salt will tell you that introspection is one of the fundamentals of self-improvement. The more self-aware you become, the more you’re able to understand others, which helps you in many ways. Why? Because self awareness gives you an idea of how people tick.
To take introspection to its highest possible level will benefit every aspect of your life.  Through introspection you can begin to change aspects of your behaviour that don’t assist you in being a success, you can identify the specific things that make you happy. Introspection is not just about learning about yourself for it teaches you about the world in general.

Perhaps the most significant thing of all about introspection is that it encourages you to challenge existing beliefs and values that you may take for granted. Introspection acts as a torch into the soul that gives us the information we need to make the necessary changes, it helps to engrain a sense of realism counterbalanced with a optimism and self belief for the future.

Introspection requires you to spend time thinking about the things that are going well in your life, as well as what is wrong. By shifting the focus in this way you allow yourself to see the unsavoury things about you, but you are placed in a frame of mind that will take decisive action. On a positive note you may discover extra things you enjoy and do well in. Introspection is a great way of highlighting an area that you have an interest or skill in. You encourage yourself to incorporate new behaviours and positive thinking, but you do not dwell on the past of previous failings.

Introspection increases you levels of self awareness, but it also improves your decision making ability because you feel more confident in the knowledge you are basing your decision making on. Limiting decision making is any decision that decides not to proceed with something on the basis of not feeling capable of doing it. Any decision you make that is reached by you thinking that you are too stupid or bad is an example of this. The more limiting decisions you make in your day to day life increase the likelihood of this type of decision making becoming habit.

Through developing your sense of introspection to its fullest extent, you will become far more honest with yourself. There is little point in being a little bit honest or biased against your weaknesses. It is essential that you manage to avoid looking at yourself  through rose tinted glasses. The best way to do this is by asking the right questions and answering them honestly.

You have to  become self aware to the point where there are no secrets being kept from yourself. Truth, no matter how unsavoury, is the first place to start before finding solutions to your problems.
So, the best way to find stuff out about something is to ask the relevant questions. In your case the relevant questions should include things that answer specific questions about yourself, such as             ‘What are my biggest strengths?’  and ‘ What am I weak at?’ Search for the most honest appraisal possible. Do not be afraid of confronting your weaknesses because it takes strength to do that! From learning your weaknesses, you become aware of what to build upon and what to exclude from you future positioning.

Introspection is a highly emotive process: You need to identify the dominant emotions of your character in order to understand who you are.

Labelling an emotion precisely is not that important. The most important thing is to be able to analyse your thoughts and behaviours in a way that shows you where your attention is being focused on
With that in mind think about looking at emotions as being either unhealthy or unhealthy rather than searching for a precise descriptive term . Not only does this make it things simpler but it also allows you to react in controlled and typical way.  In addition it avoids confusion when you come to discussing your feelings with other people. For instance, think about the different ways that two separate people can describe the same thing. We may use different words to describe the same feeling.

I want to ask you something. Have you ever avoided doing something for fear of other people laughing at you? Have you ever not gone through with something you wished have for worrying about what others will think of you? I bet you have right? We all have.

In life one of the biggest things to hold people back is, well, other people! It seems we all have this innate fear of making ourselves look silly in front of other people. This leads to us avoiding doing things that in the long run could make our lives a whole lot better.

For example. Maybe you were once in a bar and saw someone of the opposite sex that was extremely attractive, You avoided approaching them just in case they shoot you down and everyone laughs at you. That person could have been your soul mate, the person you were meant to be with, but you avoided approachiong them for fear of what others might think.

Another example might be you’ve always wanted to start a business. But you were so scared of failing in front of others that you never began. That business might have made you a millionaire! The fear of what others think of you stopped you from taking that step forward.

The long and short of it is this. The fear of worrying about what others think of you is a very real very powerful thing that all of us suffer from on some level. It is a fear that can be crippling and can stop you from being the authentic and real you.

Enter Jay Chase and his Secret Social Weapons course.

Jay Chase is a guy who had his first ever panic attack aged just eight years old. By sixteen he was so worried about what people thought of him that he wouldn’t walk into a bank if there were other people in there just in case his voice went all high pitched as he spoke to the cashier and other people laughed at him. In short, the guy was in a dark place.

Fast forward a few years and he now run’s a very successful business where he deals with millionaires on a daily basis telling THEM what to do! It’s quite a dramatic change. And he has done this all through a simple system he calls his Secret Social Weapons.

The course is comprised of an easy to read, short book that walks you step by step through a mind switch technique that will enable you to stop worrying about what people think of you.

I’ll be honest when I sat down to read the book I was slightly worried it would be a heavy going, boring read. It wasn’t. I was hooked on the first page and read it in one sitting. The book has been created so that you can read it whenever you want. It’s not a 200 page monster. Jay has written it in short, quick fire points so that you can dip in and dip out each time you need a social “weapon” to boost your confidence.

I can’t give away what his system exactly is. But it covers cool things like the Social Illusion Principle which instantly removed my fear of what people thought of me. He then goes on to give you mind tricks that you can use to develop movie star confidence by “stealing” their confidence levels. Seriously, it sounds a little crazy but it works.

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Our minds are a constant hive of activity. As you read this, you are currently processing many different bits of information some of which are significant others not so. Your brain is receiving information from all of your senses taken from all of your surroundings. On top of all that you have to absorb this article too! However, the mind is not just a simple sponge because it has to interpret the information it receives too.

Human beings are not just walking calculators because we actively engage with the information received. More often than not our memory of an event is not a flawless record. Much of what we remember depends upon how we were feeling at the time, what else was going on, who we were with and what our values were at the time. The latter point is the most interesting  one of all because it means that out experiences are shaped by what we believe to be true instead of what we know.

The type of values and beliefs we have determines the filter we sift our memories through. People with very optimistic values, for instance, will tend to draw the positives out of an event and vice versa.  We therefore live in a strange circle whereby our experiences shape our beliefs and our beliefs shape our experiences. When it comes to examining our point of view, we must take into consideration the subjective nature of memory recall.

It is fortunate that we have the choice of actively engaging with our subconscious to change our record of events. A lot of therapeutic intervention involves getting an individual to take an alternative point of view of an event. It is a bit like getting a pessimist to see the half empty cup as a half full one.  If you have ever suffered from a negative experience, upbringing or traumatic injury, then remember that a point of view is never set in stone should you be struggling to get over it.

Don’t feel that bad events or a dreadful childhood have to condemn you to a life of problems. Many people survive troubled families. The majority of adult children of alcoholics do not repeat their parents’ drinking patterns, and the same is true of adults who have survived families troubled by mental illness, chronic marital problems, racial discrimination and poverty.

Some children naturally rebound from knock-backs with their self-esteem intact. If you need help doing this now you’re an adult, talking to a therapist can help.

The way we view our experiences affects the inner voice we all here from time to time. Of course, the inner voice can appear in non verbal ways too – It can appear in the form of a feeling  or sensation. Ever felt like trying something new but didn’t because you had the feeling you would not be good enough? Well, that is your inner critic  doing its usual trick of holding you back and putting you down. If you ever experience this type of feeling more than a ‘can do’ attitude then it’s time to retune to your inner coach again.

Why again, you ask? The answer is because our inner coach is the loudest voice inside us as children. Think about how daring you are as a child. Consider all the new things you are willing to try and the people you are happy to give the benefit of the doubt to. The inner critic sets in as we get older, more cynical and worldly wise. The inner critic is the part of you that sticks to playing safe, to not speak to that cool looking person in a bar, to not have the bottle to ask your boss about a raise.
It is up to you to decide what you would rather have between an inner coach and an inner critic. Your inner coach is encouraging, constructive and empowering while you inner critic is paralysing, destructive and submissive. Obviously we need to be able to critique our behaviour in a constructive way, and yet so many people end up by putting themselves down.

One of the best ways to develop the inner coach is through relaxation. Maintain a positive attitude when times are tough by visualising or thinking about something relaxing. Take a few moments to imagine a favourite place, floating in the sea or lying in bed, and you’ll switch into a calmer physical state.       

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